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Missing Gary

I am a recent widow for the second time. My 1st husband passed away on 7/12/95, my second husband passed away on 07/11/08. We were married 8 years. I am 60 soon to be 61. I had polio as a child and am now in a power chair. My husband accepted me, loved me and doted on me. I miss him so much and I am so lonely. I'm also feeling very disenfranchised. l've had a life long illness and lost 2 good husbands. I don't think it is fair, I know life is not fair, but I am getting bitter. Any thoughts?


Comments:

houndmom,

That's a terrible loss (a second one, no less!) and I am sure your day to day life is harder as you are reliant on a power chair. Are there any community groups you can get involved in? Maybe there is volunteer work at your church that wouldn't be too taxing on you in your time of grief? I have found that while it can be difficult to engage with others when grieving, any increase in isolation will make you ever more aware of your loss. I am sure that just as you would wish for your husbands to still find meaning and happiness in life, were the situation reversed, they are urging you the same.

Hang in there, you are not as alone as you might feel.