Death of a Parent

Your Mom may not be here on earth but she is with you spiritually so when the time comes, go ahead with what you were going to tell her. When you realize that she isn't there, that's okay. If you go ahead and say what you were going to say (even though she's not there), it may help you deal with it. What you can do in the meantime is love the family members that are still alive and tell them that you still love them, even if you don't. Tell them what you want now, because it may be too late tomorrow and you may go through the same thing with them, creating more grief upon yourself.

My Mother and Father didn't tell each other that they love each other for many years. Dad was in hospice dying with cancer and only a matter of time before he passed. I talked her into making the first move and telling him that she loves him. I told her that even if he didn't respond with an "I love you", she would still feel better saying it to him while he was still alive instead of wishing she had after he was gone. She walked into the room and told him, "I love you" and he responded back telling her that he loves her. Now she doesn't have to live with the feeling of guilt and she is moving on.

I lost both a Brother and a Father only 5 months apart from each other 2 years ago. My brother was 49 years old and my Dad was 77 years old. My dog died, then my husband left me and I am still waiting on my divorce to be final. My cousin just died a couple of weeks ago. So, I've got my fair share. I do make it a point to tell my family and friends that I love them before I get off the phone or say goodbye. It makes me feel good to know that I am doing that and there are rewards for making that a part of my life.

I leave everything in God's hands and it's through his guidance that I can move on. I may not go to church every Sunday but I deeply believe in God and it's that faith that gets me through.

I hope that I have been able to make a difference in your life. Just remember to let God do his work and ALWAYS tell people, especially your family, that you love them.

OMGod I can not begin to know how you feel. However, I do know that loosing a parent and family is more than a hard pill to swallow. Our only consolation is to(like you said)know we will see each other again in heaven one day. We will keep encouraging each other until then. Stay focused on enjoying your life as much as possible and know that you are not alone.