Loss of a Child

I am so sorry for your loss. Your story really touched me because I am 39 and lost my 18yr old daughter to a brain aneurysm on June 22nd this year. I also have two other kids. It's something because my daughter was able to say goodbye to a bunch of relatives as well. Meah was also saying and asking strange questions that I reflect on now. this is the hardest thing ever because I miss my baby so much. It's really nice to know that I am not in this alone and that others share our pain. this is the worst hurt I have ever experienced and it's only by the grace of God that I am able to carry on. God Bless You and your family!!!!

Regina, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I did not loose a child, I lost my 16 year old sister Sep 14, 2009 in a car wreck as well. I see so many similarities in your story I had to write to you. I am 28, I was 11 years older than her so I grew up before her and it was always like she was my baby. I got in a wreck Sep 13 2008, a very severe wreck and when i woke up I was in my sisters arms. I lived because of my seatbelt...she did not because she was not wearing it. One year and one day later I held my sisters hand and watched her die. I have died a million times since that day. I have watched the rest of my family die as well and it is absolutely horrifying. I sit at work as a mortgage banker and cry my eyes out as i write this. She was in the hospital for 9 days in a coma where we tried every surgery possible. Her heart stopped 3 times during those 9 days, everyday the dr's would tell us more horrible news but we held on to faith that she would return home with us. At the end of 9 days they told us they couldn't do anything else..even worse, if we chose to keep her alive she would be in excrutiating pain even while being in a coma, obviously we didnt' really have a choice in this. So about 15 of us, my mother, father, brother, boyfriend and other family members held her hands and prayed with her while we waited for her time to run out. I will never get over this trauma, my last image of my gorgeous sister is her with tubes out of every part of her body and moniters everywhere. Kirsten was amazing, she had only been driving for 3 weeks and wasn't even allowed to leave the town she lived in. If she would have worn her seatbelt, I would be enjoying the holidays with her instead of reading up on other people who have gone through severe loss. I know Kirsten was not my child but my mother is my best friend and I am watching her live this hell. My heart breaks for you, for the part of your heart that has already died. For the plans you had, for the dreams, hopes and memories. I am a christian, i do believe my sister is in heaven as your son is but this does nothing for the heartbreak. I swear it feels like my lungs don't work sometimes, like i might just die from suffication. It's not fair, it seems the most incredible people are the ones that get taken first. Short time on earth...how unfair. You are in my prayers.

I am so very sorry for your loss. My son, Cole, died on March 17th of this year. I have joined a group called Compassionate Friends. We meet the 2nd and 4th Tuesdays at 7:30 at Hayes Barton Church. This has been an amazing help to me. Their web sight will be a good place for you to get an idea of the mission. I KNOW these holidays are rough. May you be blessed. Cathy