Death of a Parent
Stolen Away
My dear mother died on June 17th. I had moved back to be near her during her last months. I lived with my father at their home after it became impossible to care for her at home (She had MS). The nursing home was only a mile away and I went to see her nearly every day, and once or twice a week I was able to arrange for van service so we went to a writing class together, out window shopping and home for a few hours. I have a sister who had lived nearby for many years, who did not want to spend much time around our mother--probably burnt out, I thought. But when the end came, my sister had our mother's body removed from the nursing home immediately, did not tell me in time to go see her one last time, had the body cremated, no funeral services or other memorial. It has taken me almost two months to find out where my mother's remains are buried. My sister has power of attorney for my father, who has memory problems, and she had me evicted as soon as Mom was not able to come home to visit. I feel like my Mom was abducted by aliens and that her sad passing was smeared by the garbage my sister inflicted on the family. How do I recover from this kind of loss, not only of my mother, but really of my sister as well?
